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The engagement ring: the 10 most important questions and answers

In this article we have summarized the most important questions and answers about the engagement ring for you, as "men" often have little idea about rings. We are at your side with helpful tips and ideas.

With the engagement ring you show your partner that you love her and that you want to spend a lifetime with her. Therefore, the application ring should be chosen carefully so that it is also special. Whether with or without a diamond, simple or flashy, expensive or cheap - we'll tell you what to look out for.

1. Do I buy the rings before the engagement or do we buy them together?

Traditionally, the engagement ring is bought by the man before the engagement, but if you are totally unsure which ring to choose, then you can also buy the engagement rings afterwards (however, in this article we will show you many tips on how to choose the perfect engagement ring ).

As a man you don't necessarily have to have a proposal ring, but nowadays there are usually rings for both partners, as they symbolize the togetherness.

If you have already decided that the engagement rings should also be the wedding rings, then you definitely have to take your partner with you when you buy them. After the official engagement, you can simply choose the rings together. However, you don't have the typical experience when you get on your knees and hold out the box with the engagement ring to your partner (and almost every woman dreams of this romantic experience).



2. Engagement ring costs: how much money do you have to budget?

Most of you have probably heard of the custom in America that the engagement ring should cost at least as much as the man's two months' salary. Since the engagement ring is often worn in America even after the wedding (the simple wedding ring is usually worn in combination with the engagement ring), the high price may still be justified.

In Germany things are very different. Engagement rings are usually only worn for a few months. Therefore, one should not plunge into debt for the engagement rings if real wedding rings are bought later.

If you are still a student or if you are financially very tight, you will definitely find nice friendship rings (from around 80 euros) that your girlfriend will like as an alternative.

However, if you have a permanent job and it fits into your budget, then your future partner is guaranteed to be happy about a high-quality engagement ring (from around 300 euros). Since there are no strict rules in Germany, it is of course up to you how much the application ring may cost.



3. How do I secretly find out the ring size of my partner?

To find out the right ring size for your girlfriend, you have the following option:

You ask your friend's sister or best friend whether they could inconspicuously borrow a ring from her for a fake occasion (but she should make sure that this ring is actually worn by your friend on the ring finger). Or you can secretly get a ring out of your girlfriend's jewelry box if you have access to it.

Then you can make the ring with a conventional ring stick (available very cheaply e.g. at Amazon) find out exactly.



4. How do I secretly find the right ring style for my girlfriend?

Of course, a look into the jewelry box also helps here. Are there any conspicuous rings or just plain ones? Are most rings made of gold or silver? This gives you a rough idea of ​​what your girlfriend likes.

On your next stroll through town, you can walk by the window of a jeweler by chance - maybe your friend will automatically tell you which ring she thinks is great. You can also find out a lot about your sister or best friend here.



5. What material should the engagement rings be made of?

In addition to preferences, the budget also comes into play here. Trends like rose gold should be carefully considered whether you will be happy with them in the long term.

Materials such as 333 gold and silver are much cheaper than platinum and most of the time you don't wear the engagement ring that long (unless you don't want to get married for a few years). However, if your girlfriend is prone to allergies, then platinum is definitely worth the money.

We can advise against using the very hard material tungsten for rings, as the material is so hard that desired changes (e.g. enlarging the ring) cannot be made (which would be a real shame if the engagement ring does not fit 100%).

If the engagement rings are also used later as wedding rings, then you should of course choose high-quality materials such as 750 gold, platinum or palladium.

But it is also possible to choose wood as the material for engagement rings.



6. Big or small gemstone (diamond) on the proposal ring?

Here, too, you should make yourself smart about the preferences of the woman. Some women like it subtle, some love unusual jewelry. Does your girlfriend like glitter (big stones on the rings) or is she more the sporty type (small stones or no stones)? In general, the typical engagement ring is adorned with a large diamond, because it is supposed to be an absolute eye-catcher and it actually pleases almost every woman. You can find more about this in the article "How to find the perfect diamond engagement ring".

However, if you are on a tight budget, then you shouldn't use expensive stones for the engagement ring, but rather save the money for the later wedding rings.



7. Where do I or we get the engagement rings from?

Many movie scenes in which an engagement is staged end with him slipping his grandmother's ring over her finger. But what if he is the eighth of the new grandchildren and grandma has distributed or hawked her jewelery elsewhere? Does “eight of nine” just have bad luck? Nope! There are of course other options as well.

In addition to the classic heirloom, you can of course buy the engagement rings from a jeweler.

You can also have the engagement ring made for your girlfriend according to individual wishes.

So you don't get an off-the-peg engagement ring, but can easily design it yourself with a ring configurator. Material, color, stones, etc. can be put together by yourself.

Show your girlfriend that you love her dearly with this creative engagement ring ...

Tip: If you're looking for a diamond engagement ring, this is it Online shop of the diamond specialist BAUNAT the right address, because that's where you get the best price.



8. Do engagement rings usually have an engraving?

Not necessarily. But a nice "I love you" or both names would also be suitable and please the partner. The date of the engagement could also be included, but then the engagement has to take place on this exact day - in the event of illness or other unforeseen changes, if you have to postpone the engagement, this is rather unfavorable. Or you take the date on which you kissed for the first time, for example.

Attention: If an engraving is to adorn the engagement rings, then these are personalized and cannot be exchanged! You should therefore be very sure that you will get a "yes".

As an alternative, the ring box can be provided with a personal engraving. Just ask your jeweler whether this is possible.



9. How do I include the handover of the engagement ring in the marriage proposal?

There are of course many options for handing over the engagement ring (by the way, you can find creative ideas for the marriage proposal in our category Marriage proposal ideas).

If the marriage proposal is asked with the typical question of all questions, then of course it is very classic and romantic if you get on your knees, open the ring box and then ask your girlfriend. You should make sure that the case is a beautiful and high-quality box, since you are also presenting it to your partner.

As soon as your friend says "Yes", you take the engagement ring out of the engagement ring case and put it on your future partner's ring finger.

You can also give the ring in an unusual and special way, e.g. just stick the engagement ring on to your friend while she sleeps or have the engagement ring served in a champagne glass in a restaurant. Of course, there are no limits to your creativity.



10. Where do you wear the engagement ring?

In Germany the engagement ring is usually worn on the left side. After the wedding you wear the wedding ring on the right.

In many other countries it is exactly the opposite.

If one of you comes from abroad, you can of course decide for yourself on which hand you want to wear the engagement rings.

We have described the different variants of how and where to wear the engagement ring in more detail in a separate article.



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